I’ve been trying to create and upload images to this post since 6.23.26. Being the host of my website, with VERY LITTLE tech experience, mixed with stubbornness, has me talking to bots and troubleshooting early in the morning.
Why? Because I’ve been holding a lot and need to get it off and out of me, therefore, I’m giving it to y’all! You’re welcome 😉…
Let’s start by congratulating me on not giving up. Tech ain’t my thing. It’s frustrating and overwhelming. I cussed a little bit while remembering how much the domain costs, and that I don’t write as much as I used to, so we were going to get it all taken care TODAY 💁🏾!
Next, this was supposed to be a post around Father’s Day. Since my last post was in February (that had the people shooketh a lil bit 🤭) I need to catch y’all up…
I went home to work for Action4Equity on 3.1 and my foot has been on the gas. Working on an initiative around Black Men’s Health has been a challenge for a number of reasons. Mainly the patriarchy…I’ve had to say things with my chest way too much, to men and women, while asking them wtf they think they’re talking to? A highlight was listening to Michai share his health story as a Black man. His disposition was totally different when he heard “Spend Dat” 💃🏾 on my playlist last week.
Michai: Who are you and why are you like this? 😳
Me: I ain’t always been Michai’s Mom 🤷🏾💁🏾. 💃🏾 🎵spend dat shit…spend dat shit 🎵
Michai: 😔🚶🏾
I’m continuing to receive community at Wake Forest University School of Divinity. I had to let some things, and people, go in order to truly be open. Between being a Cancer, and having Shayla as a friend and Reiki practitioner, letting go is a requirement!
Jayauna graduated from NCAT and had a rodeo themed party. I don’t like people telling me what to wear, yet I obliged. I consulted with a friend about purchasing boots, and he and Jayauna ultimately created a shopping habit I didn’t ask for, nor need.
This is a thread with my Dad. He’s been in and out of rehab for years and, Michai and I agree, this is the best he’s sounded in years. I’ve encouraged him not to return to Winston to live so he can stay that way. Anyway, no matter how much he’s lost along the way, he’s ALWAYS managed to keep his cowboy boots. He was proud of my purchase and, for someone who used to hate texting, he’s learned how to use all the emojis 🫠.
Amber connected me with OUR tattoo artist and Sis has been getting me right! One is new and the other is a cover. I also got a few more on Juneteenth. I have one more to cover and I THINK I’ll be done. This skin done got tenduh 🤣. Ty is young and so is my new nail tech, Alexis. Both are making their own ways in this world and I LOVE IT!!!
We can’t leave Queen Mutha out. I didn’t crop the pic because I needed y’all to see that I had to see it on her stories. Also, proof that I loved it because she will have the folk thinking I’m so “rough” with her. If only she would listen to what ‘Baby’ and ‘Baby Girl’ says, that smile can be a constant. 💁🏾👏🏾
*Side-note* She don’t talk to my daddy and my daddy don’t talk to her, yet BOFF UH DEM be asking me about the other one. 😏🤦🏾😔🙄😮💨
Modern Toyota Service was playing in my face, so I went to Flow. My Aunt Miche told me my cousin Jamar was now at Flow and he got me right. We were both tired in this photo because we worked hard to get this taken care of before I flew out. Super proud of him as a son, father, husband, and leader in the car sales game 🥹.
These post Covid car payments, though. I told Esharan, I’M DRIVING EVERYWHERE!!!
An uncle transitioned, so I flew to Miami to honor him and be with my aunt, cousin, and other family. The 2.5 days were a whirlwind and a reminder of how we gotta LIVE!!! Grateful and proud of the mark my aunt and uncle made in education and to know they are well cared for.
Left Miami to go to Chattahoochee, GA for a day and half of work and I needed ALL the beverages, seen and unseen, to survive! I’m always open to new experiences, exposure, and opportunities, and Kellie and Lucia made it a fun road trip.
Back to Father’s Day…
My Dad is really intelligent. Like really. So I know he be acting delayed sometimes to get my reaction. I KNOW THIS and still fall for it every.single.time.
I wish him Happy Father’s Day before I logged on to Pink Robe Chronicles where Dr. Melva preached about hope. *Hope and imagination USED to be things I struggled with until this year’s 1Love Festival.* My dad sent me the pic above. He said he’s the heaviest he’s ever been. I asked him if he was happy? He said he was, and I told that was all that mattered. Then it went south…
He then calls me a couple days later to ask why I responded the way I did? Before I could answer he says…
Dad: Now what I don’t like is when these gals be saying, “You gon’ be my new Sugar Daddy.” Ion like when they say that shit.
Me: 🤢
Also Me: What did you THINK they would say?What else can you be to someone my age?! You’re almost 69!!!
Dad: Uh huh. Well she helps me because this diabetes affects so much.
Me: You knew that, though. From your Momma, brother, and sister.
Dad: I ain’t know it was gon’ be like this. Anyway, she rubs my feet and make sure I get on the bus and stuff because my knees hurt so bad.
Me: 🤢🤢🤢 Bruhhh
Dad: What? I just don’t like that Sugar Daddy stuff because I’ll give it to you if I want to. Don’t be expecting nothing.
Me: Meanwhile, your daughter and grandson can use a little gas money. 🙄
I still ain’t got no words for this year’s 1Love Festival. Last year I was recruited to Wake Div. This year I was an intern for 1Love through Wake Div. Next year, as a fellow 1Lover said, “WHO KNOWS!!!”
An experience
I got freer
Ain’t no turning back
You can get free, too
You gotta show up, though 🤷🏾
This was originally supposed to be a Father’s Day post. We’re here now, though🤷🏾. 1Love kicked off the birthday celebrations and it’s only up from here. I’m headed to a divorce party tonight. I’m going to enjoy this mortgage the rest of the weekend before I burn all the gas up because as I said, due to this post Covid car payment, “I’M DRIVING EVERYWHERE!”
Stay hydrated
Mind your business
Keep Michai lifted. He’s always been a different child. Him as a man can be wild to witness at times, especially when he comes home (a place he don’t pay no bills) asking, “Why you got all these lights on?!” He is journeying his way. I’m being gracious AND I want him get his coins together. I know Mama Itihari would say I’m operating with a scarcity mindset. I need Michai to get his own abundance 🫣🤭
Keep Michai’s Mom lifted
L I V E
and
Spend Dat Shit
Until next time…✊🏾💃🏾🥂🎉💃🏾🥰💨🫶🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
